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| Conversation Dos and Don’ts:
Do…
- be genuine
- be yourself
- be funny
- say his or her name a few times, it will make them feel special
- keep it positive
- have fun with it
Don’t…
- criticize personal choices
- hog the conversation
- start talking about marriage and commitment
- talk about past relationships
- talk about other people you are dating
- superficial things like how much money you make
Speed dating
Dating is a numbers game – the more potential mates you meet, the more likely it is that you will find the one.
Speed dating is not for introverted people. Speed dating is like horseracing. The bell rings and then the pressure is on to be the best that you can be in five minutes or less.
If you want the opportunity to meet a dozen singles in one night Speed dating is the singles event for you. First, you register online for an event in your city. When you arrive, you will get a nametag and a worksheet. You then chat with about a dozen other singles through a series of five minutes or less speed dates. At the end of the time a bell rings and you move on to the next date. It is your job to keep track of who you would like to get to know better. At the end of the event, you turn in your worksheet and if there’s a match The Sandbox will send an email to both parties so that you can set up a first date.
Dating Guidelines
The key to successful dating is to date with the intention of making a new friend rather than looking to meet your life partner. You’ll have more fun and less stress. Dating is not about playing games, using clever tactics or making sure you have the upper hand. Remember to smile and always dress to impress.
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 Is it ever okay for the first date to be a group date?
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- The first official date should be just the two of you – that way you get to know each other better without the distraction of other people. But if it’s not really a "date" then going out in a group is fine.
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- Yeah! It takes the pressure off both parties and it’s easier to have fun. Then, if both of you have a good time, the next date can be a single one.
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- Just suck it up and you can get through it! Unless the guy is a total creep or jerk (in which case get out ASAP!) wait until after dinner, the movie, or whatever you?re doing to politely tell him you?re not interested. At the very least you?re getting practice for when you go on a date with someone great!
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- Before the date, tell one of your buddies to call you at a certain time so you can bail if you need to. But most girls catch on to this, and many do it too, so be careful!
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Should I go on a second date if he insists we go Dutch on the first date? |
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- If you like the guy, you go on a second date. It should not matter that you paid for yourself on the first date.
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- That’s over the top and a decent guy would not even suggest that.
- Dutch treat happens well into the relationship when both have established their feelings and an “exclusive” commitment has been made – if even then.
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| What do you consider to be sure fire relationship killers? |
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- Being too controlling.
- Calling last minute for a date within the first 3 to 6 months. The norm is to call at least 3 to 4 days in advance
- Expecting the girl to make all the plans
- Not being a take-charge kind of guy
- Not calling the next day after the date to express how much you enjoyed the date - i.e., the movie, the restaurant, the club or the party
- Not being a gentleman i.e., opening doors
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- Being too needy
- Giving up one’s identity and not being independent
- Talking in “futuristic” terms within the first 3 to 6 months
- Constantly complaining
- Talking about past relationships
- Never having an opinion as to where to go on the dates, always relying on the guy to make the plans
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| Should I (the girl) offer to pay? |
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- Even if you don’t want to, it’s nice to offer and a true gentleman or a guy that’s interested won’t accept your money.
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- It’s nice that a girl offers, but I won’t accept her money unless I’m not into her. If she insists emphatically, I usually suggest she leave the tip.
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| Should I offer to pay if I asked him for a date? |
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- You definitely should offer but if he wants to pay, you can let him.
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- I think it’s nice if a girl asks me out and then pays for me.
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